The day Aaron got down on one knee at the airport and asked me to marry him is also the day he moved in with me. To be honest, our first week together was a little rough. He wanted to “stay out of my way” while he ached to be close to me and he didn’t quite know what to do with himself. I wanted to return to “business as usual” while expecting Aaron to naturally become part of my environment. Our approaches didn’t work.
The last time I shared my personal space with someone was back when I was stationed in 29 Palms, I was 20 years old. In the 11 years since, I’ve had a few roommates, but none that were ever in my personal place (except for The Basic School).
Yesterday I asked Aaron “how do you feel about our co-habitation?” He looked at me; a little puzzled by the question, but answered it none the less by saying “I love it. What about you?”
I paused for just a second to smile and then said “I love it, too.”
His next comment took me a little by surprise; he asked “Do I do anything that annoys you?”
I took a longer pause before answering this question and thought about it for a few seconds. “Nope, nothing. I’m actually rather impressed by that”
After our first week together, Aaron and I have had many conversations about our habits, needs and in the process we found our rhythm. We also moved into a bigger place; we’re not in each other’s way in the kitchen anymore and we now both feel at home in our new place.
In the past, I have been extremely protective about my personal space and my independence and perhaps I was a little at first with Aaron; however, now I’m all for letting him spoil me and take care of things. It’s incredibly awesome to not have to do something because someone else has already taken care of it.
Let me say that again – it’s incredibly awesome to not have to do something because someone else has already taken care of it. Aaron is wonderful at doing little things to make my life easier, like emptying the old coffee grinds from the coffee machine (he doesn’t drink coffee…yet, he’ll even make it for me). He also does big things like the grocery shopping and most of the cooking (remember he has to eat every 2-3 hours so he’s always making food).
Ladies, not only does Aaron change the toilet paper roll, but he’ll take one out and put it on the counter BEFORE the other roll runs out. The first time he did that; I just stared at the roll in awe. I came out of the bathroom and told him how much I love him.
Yesterday, I was doing more unpacking and some big boxes needed to make their way upstairs. Normally I would have done it. All my life I have done it…last night, Aaron, did it. I loved it. He does after all have one hell of sexy body…so it’s quite enjoyable to watch him carry heavy boxes with sweat glistening on his body.
I feel totally blessed and extremely lucky. I love Aaron more and more each day. I remain in complete awe of him. He is exactly the person who is the ideal match for me; for who I am and ‘my ways’. I never would have thought living with someone would be this easy and heavenly!!