Heartbreaks are horrible. It’s so hard to get over the disappointment, betrayal, pain and anger that heart breaks bring us. But anyone who has ever experienced a heartbreak knows that at some point you wake-up and realize – your heartbreak is no more. Your heart is healed and once more hopeful.
In good old Ann fashion I’ve given a lot of thoughts to my past relationships and what went wrong with them. I’ve always been very clear about the type of man I want and need in my life; where I’ve gone wrong is in the selection process. I’ve fallen short in actually selecting the right man. Thus far, I’ve picked men who had the POTENTIAL to be the man I desired. They’ve had traits and qualities that lead me to believe they would become the man I want.
It’s no longer a surprise to me that none of them have become the man that’s best suited for me. (I did learn about myself in each of my past relationships so they all served a purpose) You can’t change people, can’t rescue them and can’t help them grow…unless they want to. This time around, being older and a little wiser, I’m seeking and going to wait for the man who actually IS what I want.
No more “projects” for me. The emotionally unavailable men with unresolved issues and baggage need not apply. Looking for a man who is physically, emotionally, mentally and spiritually healthy. A man who shares the same passions, virtues, morals and character as me.
Not planning on going all out to find him – I think that’s highly unnecessary. I’m going to simply become more aware about who I come into contact with. Once I meet him, I’m going to take my time getting to know him…hold the assumptions and the tests. His true character and essence will show itself and I won’t ignore the bad or cover it up with hopes he’ll change.
There’s no big rush since the next 6-8 months are going to be filled with uncertainty and it’s always tough to get to know someone new during times of uncertainty however…I leave it up to God. He knows when the right time is.
I know where I’m heading and I’m looking for someone already traveling down the same road.