The extremes of my training and dieting these last 10 days and upcoming next 7 days are definitely providing me with great insight and reality check.
I am incredibly flattered and honored when someone says I inspire and motivate them however, I don’t want anyone to feel that way simply because of what they see in my physique.
When girls and women say to me “I want to look like you” – I don’t like it. In order to be honest, I pretty much would have to say – “Sorry, odds of that happening are slim to none. Looking like this requires an extreme lifestyle – do you have 3 hours a day to dedicate to your training and then are you willing to diet to the point where you are ready to eat your arm off? Secondly, I’ve been training since I was 16 years old – that’s 19 years in the gym pushing weights around and some seriously incredible genetics. Got all that to make it happen?” Although honest – it’s brutal and arrogant. I obviously don’t say that – what I do say is this: “Don’t concern yourself with looking like me; focus on achieving your personal best and constantly pushing your own limits.”
I’m not on steroids…I certainly can start taking drug tests to prove it to people but that’s not going to happen and here’s why – steroids use are not the only unhealthy aspects of the sport of bodybuilding. We create and achieve physiques that are as unrealistic for most young women to desire as those of runway models and for the most part; ALL competitors push a limit that borderlines the unhealthy.
The photos that go around facebook and other sites with all the motivational mumbo, jumbo on them – yea…those in the pictures did some serious dieting and prepping for those pictures. Only very, very few women keep a true competition physique all year around. Glutes drop, six packs go away, and nothing stays looking “quite” the same. Photographers often ask “Are you in competition shape for a shoot?” and there’s a reason for that.
Most female competitors suffer from eating disorders, have really messed up metabolisms, and deal with low self-esteem issues during offseaon. They are not being realistic with themselves; who they are, their expectations, what this sport is about and the consequences and costs of what they are pursuing.
I don’t want someone to be motivated by me and end up in a pit of disappointment, unhealthy and broken.
I Promote Self Growth
Here is where you can NEVER go wrong pushing yourself – exploring and growing your INNER self. Get to know yourself, God, and your purpose in life. Learn to truly love and accept yourself and the people in your life. Explore what scares you, push your comfort zones and boundaries and develop your self-confidence. Increase your knowledge; seek out different opinions and points of view. Learn to live a healthy and balance lifestyle that is rewarding and satisfying. Set goals and crush them – then, set some more but always make sure they are in alignment with who you are and what God has planned for your life.
Don’t look at others and envy them. Don’t wish to be like someone else – be inspired and motivated by those who are setting the example of being themselves so they may help and lead you to becoming exactly who YOU are meant to be!
Right for Me – Not Necessarily Right For YOU
Right on, so, I’ll say it again – I LOVE THIS SPORT but I am very realistic about what I love and why I do what I love. Bodybuilding is a match for my personality; it’s an excellent outlet for me to express/deposit the more extreme aspects of my personality. I will keep doing it as long as it fulfills that need for me. And I will keep speaking very frankly and openly about it.