When I read articles about solo travelers, I often feel like people want a pat on the back for being able to travel alone.
I frankly don’t get what a big deal is, I much rather travel alone. I made the “mistake” of letting someone tag along on my Amsterdam trip, and nothing against him, but I would have had a better time had I been alone, and I wouldn’t have lost my phone.
While I had an awesome time in Morocco with Dries, it was a unique experience. He and I are so much alike, it was super easy to get along with him. It’s not true of the majority of people I encounter/in my life.
I love who I am, and I have a good time with myself. I don’t feel bored or alone, whether I’m on the road traveling, or sitting at home.
I don’t need company, but of course, I love to have great company. I love being around smart, funny, spontaneous and fun people…but most people bore me. I’m being incredibly blunt and honest; some people will agree with me, and other will think I’m inflexible and selfish.
The bottom line is I know who I am, I know what I like, don’t like, what I want and don’t want in my life. I’m a pretty experienced traveler, so I know what works and doesn’t work for me.
1. No Compromising: It took way longer to plan the trip to Amsterdam with someone else, as opposed if I had been doing the planning alone. I have no desire to compromise with someone, or feel like someone is compromising to be with me. It took forever the first night to find a place for dinner. For the first time in years, I was getting extremely frustrated and mad, I was so hungry. Never would have come to that, had I been alone.
2. Being Spontaneous: While it’s good to plan some things, you never know what a city or place has to offer until you get there. When the mood strikes me, I want to do what the mood strikes me to do. I’m just as much into planning, as I am into being spontaneous. When traveling with most people, the focus is on each other, and sharing the experiences…verses welcoming the unknown.
3. Meeting New People/Impromptu Dates: I love impromptu meetings with new people in different places. When you’re with someone else, those windows of opportunity just are not the same.
4. Endless Wondering/Mad Rushing: Perhaps I wake up in the mood for some endless wondering or I’m doing a mad rush from one sight to another…I don’t really know what I’ll feel like in the morning, and I want to go according to my mood, not according to what being with someone else demands.
5. Me in Said City: I’m still looking for home, so I like experiencing who I am in a place…it gives me greater understanding of myself and where I might or might not belong. I live alone and I’m a bit of a loner, the way for me to experience a place properly is alone.
6. Write/Think/Pray: I love being in a new place alone because it gives me new perspectives. It allows me to wonder into whole new sets of thoughts and conversations with the Lord. I treasure that time. It was drastically minimized while traveling with someone.
Traveling with someone threw off my travel mojo.
I felt out of balance and my regular habits/travel patterns were disrupted. I’m not saying I will never travel with someone again, but I will make sure to first take some sort of day trip with him or her, prior to going on a multi-day trip. I will only travel with someone who adds to my experience, vice disrupting it or taking away from it.
I’m sure for most people; I wouldn’t be an easy person to travel with… so I wouldn’t take it personally, if someone didn’t want to travel with me. No one should take it personally if I don’t want to travel with them.
Traveling is a financial and time commitment – it deserves to be the absolute best it can be.
I choose to leave all unnecessary luggage behind. Free yourself to have an awesome trip/time
How About You?
Do enjoy traveling alone or with other people? I would love to hear your perspective. Feel free to comment below or contact Ann’s Adventure Tour Travel Writer here.